CHOOSING A SENIOR SCHOOL :Balancing Academics, Friendships, and Confidence
It’s funny how you spend years thinking senior school is ages away and then suddenly, it’s not. I’m excited for the boys, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous too. It’s such a big transition, and like any parent, I want to feel we’ve made the right choice.
Doing the Research
We started with the practical stuff, looking at the two local schools with strong Ofsted reports. Both are outstanding on paper, which is reassuring, but it does make you question how much weight you really give to those reports. They’re useful, but I felt the boys’ input was the most important
What’s been invaluable is speaking to people who already have children there. Hearing their real experiences gives a much clearer picture of the culture, how well the school supports the children, and what everyday life looks like beyond the website and glossy prospectus.
Letting the Boys Have a Say
I’ve also involved the boys in the decision. Some might wonder if that’s wise, but I think it’s important. This is their next step, after all. They’ve taken a balanced view of both schools, weighing up what each offers but in the end, friendships tipped the balance (I may live to regret this)
They’re excited about moving up, and that sense of belonging matters. Ted, for example, can’t wait to join the after-school cadets when he’s in Year 8, that’s been a big motivator for him. I’m also mindful that the excitement may fade over the next year, but for now, watching that excitement reminds me that finding the right fit isn’t just about academics; it’s about helping them discover where they’ll thrive.
What Really Matters
For me, I do want an academic school. I want them to be challenged and to enjoy learning. But more than that, I want a place that builds confidence and resilience. As parents, I think we can all agree those are the qualities that really matter because life will throw challenges at them, and I want them to have the self-belief to handle whatever comes their way.
Sadly, we’re all aware of how many children struggle with anxiety and pressure these days. So, I think a school that balances academic strength with emotional support is gold dust.
Reflections Along the way
This whole process has made me realise just how quickly time moves. Before long, they’ll be thinking about A-levels or apprenticeships, and that feels both exciting and surreal. It’s made me more aware that my role as a parent is shifting. I wish that time would stand still at times, but I’m also loving watching how they grow.
We can guide and support, but at some point, they have to take the reins. If it doesn’t work out, we adapt. Life’s like that and in truth, some of our biggest lessons come from things that don’t go perfectly the first time.
My Advice to Other Parents
If you’re in the same boat, my advice would be to focus on what’s fundamental for you and your child. Do you prefer an academic environment, one that’s more creative, or one that’s sport-focused? What are your child’s interests, and where will they find their people?
And try, as best as you can, to enjoy the process. It’s a milestone not just for them, but for you too.
In the End
There’s no perfect answer, only the best fit for your family at this moment. What matters most is that your child feels confident, supported, and excited about what’s ahead.
Because when all is said and done, education is about far more than grades; it’s about helping our children grow into resilient, confident young people who can make good choices and learn from the times they don’t.
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